Last week we had loads of fun featuring Jeffrey Zaslow's "The Girls from Ames". By now, most of you have heard about this memoir of friendship over the years, and we enjoyed a lively conversation on our Talk About this Grommet board -- energized by the fact that four of "the Girls" visited and joined the discussion: Karla, Jane, Jennifer, and Karen.
The day's discussion was active and engaging. Who doesn't have some thoughts on friendship to share? Here's an exchange that we especially enjoyed:
I've lived in three distinct parts of the US and have definitely found a regional difference in how easy it is to make friends! But I have to wonder how much is also due to the timing of when I've lived in those places. In the 60's & 70's, when many of us Grommet fans were forging our life-long friendships, society wasn't as mobile as it is now. People didn't move from region to region as much--they tended to stay closer to a "home base" than we do now. We grew up believing we'd always be together. No matter where we live now, I wonder if our daughters will form the same kind of lasting friendships that are being discussed today? Does our "throw away" society mean that girls don't think of friendships as something that last a lifetime? Do any of the "Girls from Ames" see their daughters forming what appear to be the kind of forever friendships their mothers have modeled?
And a response from Jane:
One last comment. Laura asked about friendships in our "throw away" society. This is a big concern of mine...whether the next generation will have the kind of life-long friends that we have been so fortunate to have. I think all the electronic communication today is not the best medium to establish friends (I do think it can help maintain friendships over time, but this mode is not good for establishing the initial foundation). Maybe these concerns and worries are off base. I hope so, as I think life-long friends are such a gift and I would hate to see a whole generation miss out on this kind of treasure.
It was a great day, with a lot of good food for thought on friendship and more. We invite you to check out the entire list of comments if you missed it -- I think you'll enjoy it. And it's never too late to add your own. We'd love to hear from you.
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