The Love Game

36 Questions for Falling in Love

Create Intimacy

The Love Game is designed to help make deeper, more meaningful connections between people. It isn’t actually a game, but rather a series of questions aimed to open up communication and foster trust between you and your partner—or a potential one.

Research by Arthur Aron and other psychologists showed that shared vulnerability
could increase closeness. They created specific questions to encourage that kind of intimacy—and when Founder Anthony David Adams read about them, he knew he had to share them. He first created an app, but then realized that cards made asking the questions a much more personal experience.

The topics are important ones that often don’t get asked. Like, “What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?” Or, “What is your most treasured memory?”

Ask one question a day, or work through the entire deck. These cards are a simple but thoughtful way to help deepen a connection and learn more about your partner—and yourself.
Read More Read Less
**What’s your most treasured memory?**

Shop The Love Game Products

Grommet Launch Conversation

  • Anthony
    Anthony

    Hello everyone! I'm proud to introduce The Love Game to The Grommet. I'd be happy to answer any questions you have!

  • Anthony
    Anthony – Special Guest
    2/9/2016 9:55 AM

    Hey friends, so grateful to be launching with The Grommet today! I'll be around all day to answer any questions you have about The Love Game, true love, or anything else you'd like to ask me ;)

  • sue
    sue
    2/9/2016 10:47 AM

    Is this a game a group of people can play?

  • Anthony
    Anthony – Special Guest
    2/9/2016 10:53 AM

    Great question @sue!

    While The Love Game was originally intended for 2 people to play, I've been at parties where the entire group goes through the questions together and answers them aloud and I think this is an *incredible* way to play it. People have a blast and it provides a really beautiful context to bond and connect and be vulnerable together.

    We actually lead groups, teams and companies in deepening into intimacy and you can totally use The Love Game for that purpose.

    Some of the questions might need to be reworded slightly to make sense in a group, but it's not issue at all. Also, for the final eye gazing you can have people pair up with the person they are *least* comfortable with :) You could even have people rotate and have the eye gaze experience with everyone in the group.

    Thanks for asking and let us know how it goes for you!

    As for the final eye gazing exercise, I would encourage people to brea

  • Kathleen
    Kathleen
    2/9/2016 10:50 AM

    Is this a good activity for people who have been married a while, or just for emerging couples?

  • Anthony
    Anthony – Special Guest
    2/9/2016 10:56 AM

    @Kathleen I do a lot of work with couples and family systems. When a reporter from TechCrunch played with her boyfriend she said she felt closer in 2 hours than she might be in 2 more *years* with her guy.

    So yes, we have lots of couples who get the game and discover new aspects of each other. Even questions you might already think you know the answer to, it can be fun to hear your spouse re-tell an old story and appreciate it in a new way.

    Also, the eye gazing is powerful and I think it can be even more so for people who have been together for a while -- it can help us polish our view of our partner and better see their divinity.

    You'll love it, I promise ;) Be sure to let us know how it goes for you.

  • Kathleen
    Kathleen
    2/9/2016 11:13 AM

    @Anthony

  • Kathleen
    Kathleen
    2/9/2016 11:14 AM

    @Kathleen I certainly will. My husband and I are very close and have the kind of relationship I imagine most people dream about, but it's because we take advantage of things like this to keep us connected. It think it's a wonderful idea and hope other couples really benefit!!!

  • Anthony
    Anthony – Special Guest
    2/9/2016 11:30 AM

    @Kathleen sounds like you are #WinningTheLoveGame!

    I agree that the couples who "get it" seem to always be interested in more ways to explore, share and grow with each other -- like a pro athlete having a team of coaches on their side ;)

    Thanks for being an inspiration and for working on building a lasting love with your husband.

    - A

  • Ken
    Ken
    2/9/2016 11:09 AM

    I love the fact that it shows the game starting with 2 glasses of wine. ;) How has this shown to work with or for people with different communication styles... such as the 5 love languages (sorry to reference other work) while my wife is a very strong person who doesn't like to express her feelings... I do. It has always been something I've tried to work with her on.

    How would these cards help in this type of a situation?

  • Anthony
    Anthony – Special Guest
    2/9/2016 11:27 AM

    I love your question @Ken and I love the love languages, actually one of the first books on relationship I ever read about 13 years ago.

    One of the great things about The Love Game is that it provides a safe context to go outside our normal patterns of relating.

    Us humans get a template for relationship waaaay before we ever begin dating -- really in the early years of our lives, and this sets up so much of how we Love and want to be loved, and also how we do conflict, and otherwise relate with each other.

    The Love Game guides us into some areas we might not normally go in regular conversation, and creates a new space that often stays open long after the game is over. I think this actually how it works so well.

    Of course I don't know you or your wife, but generally, people don't express feelings because they learned at an early age that certain emotions weren't safe to feel or express and perhaps didn't even learn that they had an interior life.

    We are often attracted to our complimentary partner to help us work through these things together.

    Based on your question, I'd suggest holding the frame that you'd love for her to be more expressive AND that you love her just how she is. It seems to me this is the ninja move in relationship -- to express our desire for a change in behavior and then go inside ourselves to do the work needed to keep our heart open and connected to our partner exactly as they are -- I find that when we do the inner work, there is often a symetrical shift in our partner automatically.

    Also, you may help your wife by sharing how you are imagining she might be feeling. She might not really have words to express how she feels, and her feelings may be confusing for her. The more you are comfortable feeling your own emotions fully the more space you'll be able to hold for all of her emotions. The best definition of success I've found is that Success is our ability to *be* with our entire range of emotions and experience - not having any particular accomplishment or characteristic.

    Hope this helps and I should also mention that every copy of The Love Game includes a card for a complimentary 1-on-1 Love Session with me if you ever want support in taking things to the next level.

    Thanks for your support Ken, and let us know how it goes!

    - A

  • Ken
    Ken
    2/9/2016 12:07 PM

    @Anthony

    That sounds fantastic. I'd like to give this a try and see what could happen. :)

    Thanks Anthony!

  • Anthony
    Anthony – Special Guest
    2/9/2016 3:38 PM

    @Ken awesome! So great to hear. Let me know how it goes brother!

    - A

  • Alan
    Alan
    2/9/2016 11:44 AM

    Today is 2/9; could you deliver before 2/13 if the order was placed today?

  • Anthony
    Anthony – Special Guest
    2/9/2016 11:47 AM

    @Alan I'm the maker... I will ask TheGrommet team about that and get back to you right away.

  • Mike
    Mike – Grommet Team
    2/9/2016 11:55 AM

    Hi Alan, it is certainly possible. You may have to select an expedited shipping method to ensure it gets delivered in time.

  • Anthony
    Anthony – Special Guest
    2/9/2016 11:58 AM

    @Alan -- there you have it! Thanks for helping out @Mike!

  • Mike
    Mike – Grommet Team
    2/9/2016 12:06 PM

  • Alan
    Alan
    2/9/2016 12:31 PM

    @Mike Ordered!

  • Anthony
    Anthony – Special Guest
    2/9/2016 12:33 PM

    @Alan Awesome Alan!

  • Anthony
    Anthony – Special Guest
    2/9/2016 5:56 PM

    Today was great! Thanks for the great questions and for supporting The Love Game ;) Let us know if you have any questions or feedback as we'd love to support you in your love story.

The launch day conversation has ended. Please direct further questions about this Grommet to our Community Experience Team.